In my experience with women here, I've found a mix of both Silver's comment and the comment she is annoyed by. Also positive examples, though, too.
Maybe budget travel money in case you find someone adjusted enough to allow you to go see them. How far would you travel for your wife? Obvi they're not that yet, but that's my point: I'd want to avoid the situation of going with a 'vanilla' relationship, never experienced the FA feelz/lifestyle thoroughly only to either stumble upon someone later and mess up the first relationship OR go forever with some lingering 'what ifs' that prevented me from fully immersing myself in the first. In a way, exploring a real relationship with a FA saves your future wife and self from your (all of our, really) trouble.
You could have a nice long chat with your (potential/hypothetical/actual) vanilla lady about all this and see if you can have an arrangement where you are allowed, if given the opportunity, to experiment later on if someone does come along. This is in the category of Azrael's idea. Maybe in exchange she gets a pass to experiment with chicks with man parts or whatever the hell her thing is.
If Silver is right, and there's a lot of guys that talk more than they walk, maybe there could be some way of distinguishing them between those here for the lulz/psycho-experimentation vs men seeking a real life, otherwise normal relation simply with a common sexual intrest. If there's women interested in these types of men, uh, maybe we all try to hang out...
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